Point taken, Dan.
All I can go from is my lengthy, but decidedly limited experience. There are two and only two approaches I've seen--mine, and T-bone's.
At Argosy, we secretly and covertly replaced many nets over the years. Even a bent pole, one time (that we didn't bend, btw). Asking nicely didn't work. In the legal world, there are "liability" issues--what if some idiot Panda got hurt doing the job, and management said it was ok? The answer was always, No! And, when the maintenance guys did it, they didn't do it right very often. But that was very much their domain, so constructive suggestions just pissed them off. However, when all was said and done, they never ripped out our work, unless it was one of the multidudinous punishments for the crime of water volleyball being played on a watervolleyball court. They wouldn't even open a bathroom for us!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zY-qy-iuXU8
Meanwhile, at the much hated on Riata, T-bone's suggestions are largely honored. They got him a new net, and allow him to adjust it as necessary. They even allow him to use the giant Riata welcome mat to prevent drain pain. Remember the hue and cry at Argosy if we used their mats, or even any of our own?
If you think my "nitpicking" is the only reason Ann Margaret is not coming to Deerfield, you give me far too much credit. Pandas will show up, in great numbers, if you can guarantee 3 things: it's "safe" to show up vis a vis management/residents, it's consistent that when you show up, there will be game, and the court is playable.
All I'm asking is, how many of these questions three I ask of thee, e'er the good ball you desire ye see have you locked down, and what is the strategy that's being developed to do so?
Got a gate code yet, or are incoming players going to shout and wave to be let in? Dead giveaway... Is the bathroom open, or is there still no bathroom? You think I'm the only one who has concerns about that net? You're wrong. In fact, I'd like to take a walk down history lane, and see why Deerfield didn't become a preferred venue to Riata when we first discovered it...
It's quite interesting to see someone besides me have to say, "stop hating and deal with the current situation--we're doing the best we can."
To which I get to say, "Creepy is a poopy head, and I like cheese." And by cheese, I mean playing ball with all 3 of the aforementioned questions taken care of for me, by someone else.
In my time, I had to deal with actual behavior that fucked with the program and made life harder for myself and the future of the corps. All you're dealing with from me is a little constructive criticism.
Thicker skins you shall need to grow, young Chiefawan learners!